For six years I assessed the mental health treatment needs of adults who get caught in the revolving door to a state criminal justice system in New England. In piecing together the histories of these clients I spoke with their parents when opportunities arose. What was often the case during these interviews is that these parents plead ignorance as to how events in the lives of their families impacted their children. Clearly, these parents were either unwilling and/or unable to empathize and build bridges to their children's rich inner worlds. This is why these parents remained at a loss to chronicle the emotional histories of their grown children. These interviews have been instructive in teaching me how these parents lost control of their kids when they were old enough to survive outside the home. The desire to please their parents in order to receive valuable nurturance was extinguished early on. Their children may have paid lip service to them but, for all intents and purposes by age 14 or so most of these kids stopped listening to their parents altogether. By that time, as they probably saw it, they had nothing left to lose. These victims of parental indifference and abuse were soon primed to demand reparations from an unsuspecting community that was about to pay dearly for what these children felt robbed of growing up. One doesn't behave in respectful ways as an adult when fed a steady diet of disrespect as a child.
As implied previously, the abdication and/or abuse of parental authority is an incubator for the development of antisocial traits. The antidote to the behavioral viruses these traits spawn is a parenting philosophy built on a bedrock of benevolent authority. Benevolent authority is put into action as consistent and continuous dialogues with our children where we actively listen to and clarify what we hear, reflect back our understanding of what we hear and respond respectfully in our roles as leaders and teachers. This way, our respect and love for our children as separate people comes across loud and clear. Collectively, these interpersonal skills form a diplomatic initiative that opens negotiations to obtain our children's cooperation through motivational strategies designed to get them on board with our vision for raising them. "We" stay in charge no matter how humbly we wear the title, "boss."
This interactive and dynamic process requires a flexible vision. It is rooted in forging an alliance so that we can use our influence to leverage agreements. In truth, it is about as democratic an arrangement as The US Government in their foreign policy negotiations with third world countries who depend on our foreign aid to preserve their sovereignty. Benevolent parents not unlike benevolent superpowers, speak softly and carry a "big carrot." To flaunt superior power is tantamount to baiting an inferior foe into a guerrilla conflict. As parents we want allies of our children, not adversaries. Once we turn parenting into a battle of wills we may win some battles but, we will ultimately lose the war with enduring negative consequences.
The relationship between Mother with her child is unexplained. It is the most Purest and Strongest relationship in the Earth. In this video a Blind mother who cant see any thing in the world, her reaction was unexplained and very emotional when she watch her new born baby for the first time with the help of technology. Mother saw her child with the help of a special camera for blind people. With the help of this camera a blind person can see as it redirect and sends the image on brain and because of this a blind can see. See this video as i am sure you will be very emotional by watching this video
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As implied previously, the abdication and/or abuse of parental authority is an incubator for the development of antisocial traits. The antidote to the behavioral viruses these traits spawn is a parenting philosophy built on a bedrock of benevolent authority. Benevolent authority is put into action as consistent and continuous dialogues with our children where we actively listen to and clarify what we hear, reflect back our understanding of what we hear and respond respectfully in our roles as leaders and teachers. This way, our respect and love for our children as separate people comes across loud and clear. Collectively, these interpersonal skills form a diplomatic initiative that opens negotiations to obtain our children's cooperation through motivational strategies designed to get them on board with our vision for raising them. "We" stay in charge no matter how humbly we wear the title, "boss."
This interactive and dynamic process requires a flexible vision. It is rooted in forging an alliance so that we can use our influence to leverage agreements. In truth, it is about as democratic an arrangement as The US Government in their foreign policy negotiations with third world countries who depend on our foreign aid to preserve their sovereignty. Benevolent parents not unlike benevolent superpowers, speak softly and carry a "big carrot." To flaunt superior power is tantamount to baiting an inferior foe into a guerrilla conflict. As parents we want allies of our children, not adversaries. Once we turn parenting into a battle of wills we may win some battles but, we will ultimately lose the war with enduring negative consequences.
The relationship between Mother with her child is unexplained. It is the most Purest and Strongest relationship in the Earth. In this video a Blind mother who cant see any thing in the world, her reaction was unexplained and very emotional when she watch her new born baby for the first time with the help of technology. Mother saw her child with the help of a special camera for blind people. With the help of this camera a blind person can see as it redirect and sends the image on brain and because of this a blind can see. See this video as i am sure you will be very emotional by watching this video
See how this invention made this mother happy... by pakistanclip
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/3749617
